Tips for Speaking to Someone About a Gambling Problem
If you suspect a friend, parent, or loved one in your life may have a gambling problem follow these steps to have a conversation about it:
- Choose the right time: Pick a time when the person is not busy and the situation is calmer. Ask the person if it is a good time to talk.
- Let the person know you are concerned for them in a caring manner: Make sure your voice tone is calm and empathetic. Use good eye contact.
- Be specific about the behaviors you have seen: Describe specifics about the persons actions and behaviors. Describe the increase you have seen in a specific gambling behavior and the results of that action. State the negative impacts of the action.
- Really listen non-judgmentally to what the person is saying: Let the person respond to your observations. See if the person mentions causes for the behavior you mentioned. See if the person offers solutions to change.
- Let them know you are willing to help – suggest support and counseling: Tell the person you are willing to assist with getting help. 1-800-GAMBLER is a great place to start. Call, text, or chat 24 hours 7 days a week.
Sometimes you don’t have to use the word “gambling” in the conversation. You can keep it general and ask about activities that are affecting the person’s financial situation.
Sample Conversations
John, can we talk? I am concerned. I notice you are spending more time on the sports betting ap betting on games. You seem to be concerned about point spreads more than coursework and grades. You are not studying as often as you used to. Do you think you may need help?
Terrell, is it a good time to talk? I have something I want to bring up that I have noticed. I know you have been having trouble with paying your bills since work is not steady. You buy scratch tickets when you get your paycheck and you rarely win. I am worried you are using money you cannot afford to lose. Is there a way I can help?